Mental health and relaxation

If you want a reason for why perhaps mental health problems among individuals in society are on the rise you could probably look towards how things are in your daily life. We are told how things seem to be improving and bombarded with illusions such as the work-life balance, pursuing your passions and other generalisations, yet many young working adults will report a disconnect between what they expect and what the reality is – which is the source of mental deterioration.

If you are told and expect to work hard so you can afford to buy your own home, for example, but then realise your income in no ways allows you to buy a place to live in, what can you do? It is a source of frustration, and played over in your head many times, the unreason will tip you over the edge.

Is there any reason why men seem to be suicidal in their thirties and forties? The illusion society gives us is of happy two-children families, yet very young children are difficult to look after, because they require a lot of our energy but do not give back much yet. Men have to work harder then they have in order to feed a growing family, work longer hours, and when they get home, tired after a long shift, they realise that their time at (hard) work was actually their time of relaxation, because the family demands their energy. No way will they be able to slouch on the settee and watch Match of the Day drinking a beer when two children are climbing around them. And when they have gone to bed, the missus complains that he spends only a short period of time of the day around with them, much of it is spent playing with them, that is his now his time to do the housework or give her some adult conversation.

One can only surmise that this mental disconnect causes us to mentally deteriorate. Exacerbated over time, this can result in mental health problems. It has been suggested that musicians who spend a lot of time espousing aesthetic ideals while having their music accepted by the mainstream go slightly bonkers – there is a list of musicians with great ideas but slightly batty, such as Stravinsky who displayed rather erratic behaviour. Read it and see what you think!

And what might be a cure for such a disconnect? Simply reconnect. Get away from it all, away from the hustle and daily routine and take time to reconnect with nature, your spirit and your life. There is no other place to do this than St Ives, where you can enjoy the calm of the sea, experience good weather overall and meet great people.

Work and self-fulfilment

At many social occasions one of the often talked-about questions is the idea of work. When you are at a dinner or lunch with someone, or perhaps even at an event like a meeting, strangers often end up straying into the conversation of work. And why not? After all, work occupies a large proportion of our daily lives.

In fact, nowadays, you may even argue that when you are not asleep, you spend most of your waking hours thinking about work. Some people may refute that, pointing that even when they are preparing to go to bed, work is the last thought they have before they drift off, and then when they wake up in the middle of the night (not “If”, but “When”, because it is a given that they will definitely wake up from all the stress), they think about their work and it keeps them awake.

There are two lines of thought at this point. Some people say that since you are awake, you might as well think about the work until your body drifts and lulls you back to sleep. Others think that thinking about work does not necessarily keep you awake, but thinking about it might send you back to sleep, especially if you perceive your job to be repetitive and boring. If you were a librarian, for example, thinking of the stock check you may have to do in the morning may bore you to sleep, or induce you to save your energy by going to sleep. But I have digressed – we talk about work a fair bit.

Does work keep one awake at night? Or does it send you to sleep? I suppose the fair answer would be how fulfilling your job is to you. Fulfillment – or a sense of it anyway – may be one of the most important things in a job, alongside money – so finding one that allows you to blend both to a degree is a useful important skill to learn.

As the Piano Teacher Stroud Green website mentions, learning is a balance of several factors. And self-fulfilment may just be the most important factor. How fulfilled are you at work? If you are feeling excited, and your work gives you a buzz, then good for you! But if you are feeling drained, and work is getting you down, a holiday break – even a short one at the seaside – may do you good, recharge your batteries. And if you ever need a place to stay, visit the Blue Mist accommodations. There are plenty to cater for couples, small families and groups!

Social Media Possibilities

Is there any truth to the following hypothesis? The theory goes that if you are a social media user, you would be stuck using a platform that was predominant at the time. For example, if you subscribed to Facebook and use it extensively, you are likely to be in your thirties and forties. And there may be some basis in this argument. For example, once you have taken the bother to sign up, and interact with individuals with a similar inkling to you, you may form a little clique of followers who hang on your every word. And as each interaction cements the links between you, and other followers join your followers, the web of interconnectivity deepens. Through this process you become hooked. And when perhaps you decide to leave the platform, it becomes difficult. After all, you have spent all that time typing and reading teach others posts. You have formed connections with people you might have even never met in real life. You might have talked or chatted online while never having may met. Leaving the platform becomes difficult because it is like removing a part of yourself that is so entwined and engaged in the fabric of the social network.

Whatever conclusion the discussions about age groups arrive at, there is no denying that social media opens up possibilities. If you were a creator of some sort, such as a writer, jewellery maker or web designer, you could flog your wares to your followers. But even if you did not have a product to sell, you could earn some income selling other people’s products. This is known as affiliate marketing, which takes the fuss of managing the most part of the product out of your hands – you merely sell to your followers. A less overt form of marketing that has developed over the years is social influencer, where there is no direct selling, but where a seemingly successful person impresses upon others the brands they use, so that other followers that aspire to the same level of success may be influenced to use the same brands.

Building a group of followers requires a lot of time and effort and self-determination. But you must be patient with it, and not rush. If you intend to go down the “sell my product route”, make sure you also retain the rights to your creation though, so that royalties can grow to a significant income. The singer Michael Jackson made a fair bit of money by holding the rights to the Beatles back catalogue – you can read about this more in the Piano Teacher Crouch End blog- and the small percentage of an income may seem insignificant at first, but it is a minor thing that might transition to a significant sum!

St Ives is famed for its crafts and being an art hub – why else would we have the Tate here? If you are a crafts person, social media can help you enhance your business.

If it doubt, clarify – don’t ignore!

If there are any lessons to take away from Shubnum Khan’s experience, one to be mindful of is that one should never expect anything for free. Another could be perhaps to be speak up whenever you feel uncomfortable about something, and not to simply brush it away simply because you are afraid of speaking up.

The aspiring author signed up many years ago for what she believed to be a free photo shoot. The photography had been organised as part of a project called the 100 Faces Shoot, where a photographer promised a hundred individuals a free professional portrait shot in exchange for the right to use the images as part of a project. The author signed a disclaimer and agreed to the terms, in exchange for a professional shot which might have been useful for future promotional purposes.
What she had not counted on was that her picture would have been used for many purposes without her consent. Khan found that her image had been used in a Canadian newspaper for an advertisement on immigration, as the ‘after’ picture for dermatological advertisements, and even more alarmingly, as a testimonial image in various websites for purposes such as child minding, as if to suggest she were endorsing the product.

It turns out that the photography promised was not simply for the purposes for an art project, but to build a collection of stock images. Khan had signed up and allowed her images to be part of a stock image collection, which meant that any one could have bought her image and then used it for whatever purpose they desired.

One might argue that the writer has a cause for litigation, but as it turns out the contract that had been signed prior to the shoot listed out these terms. In her rush, excitement or perhaps naivety, she had not felt confident to clarify any terms that might have raised alarm bells, and brushed them aside. Or perhaps she believed it unimportant, or was too naive about the repercussions. The moral of the story could be – if in doubt, don’t be afraid to speak up, or raise an issue. Sweeping it under the carpet is not going to work!

There are things we may not understand – we may not understand why the world economies function as they are, or in the field of music, why musicians would claim to be aliens (you can read about the Mysterians in the Piano Teacher N15 blog, but when you face something strange – clarify!

New challenges, new beginnings

Seeing as it is World Cup year, let’s pause briefly for a detour to the world of football.

It is the end of an era.

Fresh from the Portuguese exit from the World Cup, after a thrilling 3-3 draw with Spain, football icon Cristiano Ronaldo announced that he is not renewing his contract with Spanish champions Real Madrid for the next season, and will instead join the team they defeated in the Champions League, Juventus instead.

At the age of 33, Ronaldo still commanded a hefty price tag of 99 million. Is it worth it? This is what the media have been asking. But you have to think that he may not have reached his peak yet, or even if he has, he could possibly have one or two years more in him to justify the price tag. And 99 million is not the price they pay for Ronaldo’s services on the pitch. One of the most iconic footballers, drawing attention wherever he goes, thousands of social media followers, in a white and black shirt of Juventus? That has to draw a lot of attention, and be worth a lot. Will sales of shirts go up? Probably.

Juventus have probably decided that within the next two years they will need to make a push to winning the Champions League, and now is the time to do so by getting one of the most important footballers in the world. Ronaldo has probably done enough to make himself known with that amazing bicycle kick last year.

But why did Ronaldo decide to leave Real Madrid? The first reason one can think of is that he had spent enough time at Real Madrid and to improve probably needs a change. We all do. Having spent a long time in one job, means that you start to lost a bit of your edge, a bit of your drive, and get comfortable. The best among us recognise that to keep improving, you need to keep challenging yourself, and finding new environments to do so.

Another reason is perhaps that manager Zinedine Zidane has gone. And why did Zidane go? Was it because of the Real Madrid hierarchy and board meddling with the team? Maybe Ronaldo got fed up of them too, and their courting of Kylian Mbappe and dare we say it – Neymar.

It may be true that if your employer courts a professional with the same skill set as you, he is looking for a younger replacement. You might just as well go before you get pushed. Or perhaps, Ronaldo just need a fresh change – like the pianist Frederic Chopin, who decided to leave Paris after a period of time to visit Majorca. (You can read more about it in the blog of  Piano Teacher Finsbury Park.)

Whatever the case, it seems all parties are winners here. There might be more drama in next year’s Champions League football especially if both teams meet head to head.

Enjoy the summer, everyone!

Lessons from the World Cup

The World Cup has passed the group stages already and we have seen many good games already. Even if you don’t normally fancy football, it is hard not to get immersed with all that is going on, perhaps because it is sociable to keep up with these events that happened only once every four years; it gives you something to talk with your mates!

With the traditional powerhouses of football such as Germany and Spain not really doing that well, who do you think will win the World Cup this year?

The Germans have endured a torrid campaign. They did not play well in their opening games and gave themselves a difficult time in a must win game against South Korea. With only three games in each World Cup group stage, it is important to position yourself so that you are not under pressure in a situation, which can be used against you. The South Koreans knew that the Germans had to win the game, and would consequently go on the offensive. This meant they could sit back and wait for the German team to commit men forward, and then hit them on the counterattack. They could also play a slower passing game, induce the Germans to keep coming at them in order to win the ball and then pass it into open space and tire them out over the course of the game. And every free kick or throw was slow, so that time would run down. Unfortunately the Germans found themselves in these unfavourable positions, and ultimately lost the game on errors. But had they performed better in the first two games, you might have found that they would have been able to relax and coast in their final game, play to their strengths without pressure and probably would have won that game and advanced.

Why did not take talented winger Leroy Sane? Sane had a good season at Manchester City dazzling defences with his speed, but was a casualty of a high-profile squad. Like the pianist and composer Fanny Hansel, he lay in the shadow of more prominent names, but his inclusion in the side would have given defences a headache as he drifts in and out of possession well. He might have performed better than Arsenal’s Mesut Ozil, who you may agree had a less than successful season with Arsenal.

My money is on Belgium to win. In Thibaut Cortouis, Vincent Kompany, Eden Hazard and Romelu Lukaku, they have an important spine of the team. They are also largely overlooked so it would be nice for a team like that to win!

Summer’s here – move it or lose it!

As the summer season gets into full swing, why not start making your plans to enjoy the good weather?

Britain for much of the year is bathed in cold temperatures. We are luckier to have better warmer weather in St Ives, and when it is the height of summer one can imagine that the town takes on a livelier edge. There are many things to do and see, and may take a bit of planning, but in order to make the full use of your limited free time, why not?

St Ives has many beaches you can visit – some of them are dog-free and some are not, so it is worth checking out in order to make sure you get the one you are looking for. If you don’t like dogs and don’t want them running up to your picnic basket to have a sniff, then you’ll want to know which ones to head for. While you are in St Ives, you can visit Godrevy Lighthouse, or if you fancy a bit of art, why not head for Tate St Ives, which has recently re-opened?

St Ives has always had a history of art and crafts and one of its most popular artists was the sculptor Barbara Hepworth, whose works are exhibited in various locations around St Ives. You can visit the Barbara Hepworth Museum in Barnoon Hil (TR26 1AD) and get a glimpse into her working life.

There are also many places that offer day courses in crafts such as candle-making, knitting, and woodwork if you hunt around. If your stay in thie busy seaside town is only limited to a long weekend, you can check before you are coming as these things tend to get booked up quite quickly.

Rockpooling is one of the hidden treasures and Kennack Sands has been mentioned as one of the ideal locations for these. Or if you prefer more active sports the St Ives Surf School can teach you a thing or two about conquering the waves!

There are many things to do and you will never run out of entertainment. The thing you must do, however, is to commit to a visit, whether you are coming for a music festival or other form of entertainment, or as a piano teacher in Harringay says, you would be forever on the outside, looking in and wondering. If you need a place to stay, why not try the Blue Mist studio or apartments? You are minutes away from the beach on foot and all the other things St Ives has to offer.

St Ives traders worry armed forces will hurt them

St Ives traders are worried that a parade by 42 Engineer Regiment, part of freedom of the town celebrations, and Armed Forces Day – together with traffic restrictions – will put off shoppers on a busy Saturday.

Now Corrine Harwood-Davey, of the La Muse clothes shop, has written to the town council urging closer liaison with traders when major events were planned for the town centre.

But St Ives town clerk Alison Benfield said the event, on June 30, was expected to bring in between 4,000 and 6,000 visitors and that the two elements had been combined to reduce the number of Saturdays facing potential disruption.

A motorcycle festival was to have been held the following day, meaning access would have been affected from Friday night through to Sunday, but it has now been moved to another venue.

Mrs Benfield said the loss of the motorcycle festival, although disappointing, meant that disruption to all but Market Hill was now limited to Friday night and Saturday morning.

Corrine, who has had a shop in St Ives for 18 years, launched a petition urging the council to hold such events on a Sunday to reduce the impact on trade.

She said it had been backed by the majority of independent retailers and some of the nationals – but she had not had the time to carry out a comprehensive survey.

Corrine stressed that there was no objection to the event and they appreciated the amount of hard work involved in organising it, but said holding it on a Saturday, their busiest day, was detrimental to retailers.

“While it will bring people in to the town, they are people who are coming to watch a military parade and not to go shopping and the extra people may be enough to put off those who want to go shopping,” she said.

Corrine said that, like many other towns, trade in St Ives had been hit.

“It really isn’t great at the moment,” she said. “A lot of people have been struggling since Christmas, no-one knows why, although the cold weather hasn’t helped.

“The difference for us between a bad day and a good day could be £1,000 which is a lot of money to me.”

Mrs Benfield said: “It was decided to hold the freedom parade on the same day as Armed Forces Day to minimise the impact on trade there would be if it had been an additional Saturday.”

She said it was hoped the thousands of visitors would make return visits once they had seen what the town had to offer.

Mrs Benfield said the freedom of the town was being granted to the Royal Engineers and that 42 Engineer Regiment from Wyton would parade through the town on Saturday morning.

There would then be more events associated with Armed Forces Day in the town and a chance to see what the 42 Engineer Regiment did at Wyton by application through the town hall.